1) Take time to ask people for their “back story.” Listen well. Consider well what have been the pain points of their lives.
2) Whatever negative past experience you have had with a person, by grace, should be wiped from your mind. Make this purge daily. Somehow anointed David did this for King Saul again and again, never seeing him for what he had done, but rather for who God had originally intended Saul to be.
3) Start each new encounter with the hopeful assumption that either God’s providence or their life events have swept a fresh breeze of spiritual need and curiosity into their lives.
4) Prayerfully ask God to help you love the person you are talking with as He loves them.
Remember, we are all more than the bodies we inhabit; our lives are books being written! Odd but the Author of Life has given us permission to write our own ending, and power to alter another’s story-line. May God give you wisdom as you insert your voice and Jesus’ name into someone else’s book!